Besides the fact that her behavior has changed over the last week or so...it is the way she talks to me now. Not DH, but with me. (and other things)
In the beginning she was very sweet. When she asked for something she would always cock her head to the side, smile and ask in a sweet voice, "mommy will you buy me such and such". It fluctuates between an IPod, cell phone and laptop. She is ALWAYS CONSISTENT with those items. Now she doesn't ask. She demands. She uses statements like "You will do this"; "You will buy me this".
I have been documenting things, but more so in the last week. I like FACTS; so I have been sending myself emails on a daily basis what our conversations have been like.
Yesterday I typed up a three page "report" for her therapist and emailed it to her. I want answers. My gut is telling me that she is RAD as well. But I don't want to be "jumping on a bandwagon" so to speak.
I listed every thing that I have seen and what I have found in the documentation from court reports and school reports.
Then I was reading more about RAD on the forum and found that their are TWO kinds of RAD: Inhibited and Disinhibited.
Children with the inhibited form generally don’t initiate or respond appropriately to most social interactions and may respond to comforting with outbursts of anger, crying, or irritability.
Children with the disinhibited form of RAD tend to attach easily but indiscriminately, even to strangers or unfamiliar adults.
I can honestly say that Lil Miss meets the disinhibited form of RAD. But Miss Priss is more inhibited. She is "ackward" when faced with new social settings. She tends to talk to much and reveil to much personal information...and sometimes inappropriated information. And she really doesn't understand why it is inappropriate. As for the outbursts...there have not been any outbursts. Her emotions are very controlled.
Last night when typing all of it out, I realized she has not had any real emotions.I haven't seen her really happy. I haven't seen her really sad. I haven't seen her really angry. I haven't seen her have a typical reaction to things that would set a "normal" kid off. For instance, there are THREE younger children and two of them get into her stuff all the time. Yesterday they got her lotion (both bottles) and used it to play house; dumped them out into the play dishes, all over the bedroom floor, and on her bed.
Her reaction was to bring me the bottle and calmly said, "they got into my stuff again". She wasn't visibly angry. When I was her age, I was always screaming at my little sister to stay out of my stuff. My older children scream at each other and chase each other around the house when someone has gotten into their stuff.
So the lack of emotion is really getting to me.
There is a whole list that I won't go into so I will stop here.
It is weird. I no longer have "worries" about Lil Miss. I know what the "problem" is, I have a game plan...so no worries. I AM worried about Miss Priss. I don't have a DX for her. I don't have a game plan.
I don't like not having a game plan.
I need to have a game plan.
I am on my way...I just need everyone to work the game plan with me. I need them to tell me that I am not crazy and the things that I am seeing is a problem.
We shall see. I have been checking my email all morning.
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